BLOGGER TEMPLATES AND TWITTER BACKGROUNDS »

29.4.11

whatever i felt .

When a couple break up nor before breakin up , please don't judge by listening to one side of the story . Cos that person will always make it sound like the other party is always wrong . So to all of em' out there, please listen to both sides of the story and judge =)

11.2.11

|| Gadda Takecare Of My Self (= ||

I wanna : Drink water ALOT

I wanna : Eat ALOT

I wanna : Put on WEIGHT !

(=

10.2.11

|| unexpected ||

You said you'll always be there for me nometta what , but ,

i never expected that from you . =|

12.10.10

||If U're in a relationship, married or none, read this. U'll know why at the end.||

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
 
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside
the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband....

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

  So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.

  
:) ..

10.9.10

||Septemberdafoodimbam.||


Bloggen ! BACK ! after days ! SHOWIEH ! busy with mams ! LAWL :P
aaaaanyways ! This September Is Like Kinna pweetayhkewl!
Because its started with fooood!
So on the First September mom tried a new recipe wich turns into like so friggin' superdeliciousfoodevermymommadid !! Infact , once she told , papa keeps falling for her just because of her super delicious food ! HEE !! Iloveherlikealotandiloveherfoodthatshecookliketons ! ijustloveit !! 


Then , The Second of september too started with food ! LAWL ! We had a dinner for newly married couples ! it was so  awesome !! Agad some picture of it ! enjoyandcraveforit ! :pp


The Some Kinda Delicious Name Briyani :p




Second Yummey Shot :D

||Chicken Something ! hahaks ! Lupa-ed The Name :))||
||I See Chicken , Do You ?? :PP||
||Clear Version Of It :DD||
|| Fried Chicken ||
|| Lamb Somethng,They Call ''AAtu Varuval'' in tamil ! My Fav ! :DD ||
|| Udang Sambal :D <3 <3 !! ||


SuperDelicious kan ?? LOL ! Theeeeeen , While we [ me and my sissey ] were helping mum cleanin up stuffs we had some fun of snapping pictures wich was quiet ''insanely unique''.. Here We Go .. :)

||Fruits||
|| Second Shot :DD ||
|| ''Dried Fruits'' :DD ||
|| Thats My sisseys Hands On Top . LOL ! *Very The Important U Know ||
|| We Actually Forgt To Wash Mr.Grapes Together With Other Fruits , So He Was Left Behind ! LOL ! ||
|| And There She Goes , Miss . Fruitamma :DDDDD ||
|| Miss . Manggamma . ||


So , Its All About FOOOD !! and i love it :D i love food ! seriously ! i'll keep falling encorely when it comes to food ! :DD 

as my sisey owis says this , ||Nothing Is Beautiful Than Food  ||,  I Do Agree ! :)

ps : ||Nothing Is Beautiful Than Food  || :DD <3  

3.9.10

||4th September , Unforgetable day .||

 Bloggen ,

||HUSHS|| Its DILA'S BORN'D !! Lets give her a bloody suprise !

|| The Birthday Pincess . ||



DILAAAA !

TAHDAAAAAH !!

Showieh For One And Half And Hour Late ! LOL !

happyyy ''MOMMA GAVE BIRTH TO YOU''Daaaaaaaayyy !!!

awill never forget this day in my life ! lol ! this is the day whr i and ya daddy get our pure pwicious symbol of love , thats you :) ! LOL

Wishing you all the great things in life, hope this day will bring you an extra share of all that makes you happiest ...

Happy Sweet Sixteen And Don't Need To Act Grown Up !

Dila , U meant to me MORE THEN I , YOU AND EVRYONE KNOWS ! and its a speacial day for me too ! :) Hope you have a blast on te day of yas !!

ENJAYH CHICKA !!

ps : MOMMA LOVES YOU SO hgksyugesbdx LATTEY LATTEY !

|| awish her . ||


 thats all !! BYE !!


CHOWSEYH !! ;)

1.9.10

|| Firstey Powstey , Bloggey Getta Namey . ||

Mr.Bloggey ,

TAHDAAAAH !! m here FINNAAALLLYYY ||SCREAM and JUMPS|| ! omg ! omg ! omg !

can u || b e l i e v e || this ?
LAWL ! I CAN'T i can't !! Wanted to have a VERY macho , sweet, awesome , kewl blog of mine , BBBUUTTT , u know , me with my HECTIC screwed up life ! Grr .. OKAYH ! Don't Talk About Past ! LoL ! M here ! Thats the IMPORTANT thanggy now !

Oh Mr.Bloggey ! You must be wondering || WHY MACHO ?! || LoL ! Before that , Bare this in ya mind ! || YOU ARE A MALE .||
heeee ! i know it's sounds funny ! bt yess you're male . :pp OH ! you gotta NAME too ! YESS ! I've thinked few names for you but only one captured my mind :p happy ? IMAGINE ! you gotta name ! HAHAHA . okayh ! i know u can't wait to hear it . Here We Go ..

Me , Kamalavaashnee , the owner of this blog , naming you as || BLOGEN , BLOGEN , BLOGEN || ! So Blogen , I hope u ''LOVE'' that name instead of liking it :p oh yeah ! Trust me ! we can be the
|| Goody Giddy Bestest Buddy || ;)

Thats all for now ! I'll catcha in the next post ! 


ps : I Crap Alot :)


CHAOSEY !

|| Welcome To My Blog . ||